Why do we do things that we know won’t get us anywhere?

To be honest with you guys lately I’ve been lazy. I haven’t posted in forever; that’s obvious if you check the date on my last post. But you know what, it okay to be lazy sometimes. Even though I’ve been slacking tremendously, I’ve been putting a lot of time to one of my niche sites and it’s finally hit the second page of Google for one of the keywords that I’m trying to rank for.

I wasn’t even planning to make this post today, but since I feel so bad about not doing it, I figured I would start at least a post about why I’ve been so lazy. Actually, as I’m writing this post I’m also researching about why we humans are this way. Why we all want something, but we don’t do it. It’s a question that has been bugging me for days now and I figured if it’s screwing with my head, it might be with yours, too.

Why don’t we do things, even though want to do them?

Why do we? I know that when I write a post hundreds of people (I hope) will read it and benefit from in some way. I know that my blog will get more traffic, which equals more readers and once again hopefully more subscribers. But why is it so hard to just do it?

On the search for answering this question I found I wasn’t the only person that asked the same question. The problem isn’t lack of information, you and I know if we want to learn affiliate marketing we could read a book on it or get a course. There’s enough information about any topic out there in books and the web. We know what to do, but we still don’t do it.

Most times we just go ahead and do the opposite or keep doing exactly what we were doing. We keep writing posts that don’t entertain, engage or educate readers. We keep eating food that’s not healthy for us, and we invest hours into other shit that doesn’t grow our blog.

“To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing.”–Mark Twain

Content is what matters in a blog, so why do I skip the most important element to a blog? What I found out can help me change that…

I criticize my work too much – I must be real with you guys, sometimes I delete or just leave full posts in queue and let them stay there for days. I finish writing a post and re-read it, then I start asking myself questions whether I think it’s a good post or not, and I second guess myself. I start thinking what people are going to think about the post. “This post sucks!”, “what a waste of my time”… These are all thoughts that cross my mind and fear kicks in of posting. It’s not good to be our own worst critics.

The instant gratification syndrome kicks in – I would rather write a short post in some article directory that I know is going to drive traffic to my niche sites and make me money than take half a day researching, writing, and editing a great post here for you. We all want what we want…NOW!!

What BJ Gallagher recommends we do – 5 Things we can do to change the habit

1. In my case it’s become a habit not to post very often, which is not what I want to do. I really wish I could post more often. By creating a habit of writing a paragraph to get my rolling or separating a time slot in the day dedicated to just writing can create a habit. Training myself with love can create a habit faster.

2. I’ve been using words in my vocabulary that don’t relate to action. By eliminating words like try, should, ought to can help me get rid of the negative vocab. Using more motivating words will create better results. Examples: “I’m going to write a post right now”, “people love reading my posts”

3. Sometimes I start thinking it needs to be a 1000 word Goliath post to add some value to you, but I’ve realized that a single link to an interesting article or tool can still be useful and simple to do. It’s starting that counts. By setting the goals much smaller I can guarantee myself success.

4. I know for a fact that not having a friend, coach, or mentor pushing me will not help me get at least a post a week. It’s a fact that if you have someone reminding you of your commitments, it helps. Don’t do it alone. Find someone willing to hold you accountable.

5. Finally, the last one, if not the most important. BJ Gallagher tells us that success is about progress, not perfection. Being a perfectionist myself, it’s hard to hear this, but it’s important that I know this so I can start moving in the right direction. From now on as I did with this post, I’ll write at least a sentence or a paragraph every day, and pat myself in the back and remind myself that I’m taking the right steps in the right direction. Remember that to get to the top of the building, you need to walk one step at a time, you don’t just jump to the tenth floor do you?

Obviously these are just a few reas0ns why our brains work in a certain way. Last I’m not the guy you want to get your advice about psychology from, I’m just restating things I’ve learned about why I do things according to psychology.

So now that you know I’ve been slacking, do you have any other advice or ideas to share about your own experience and how you have changed?

As I typically do at the end of each post, if you think this article helped you in some way, share it with others if you will, who knows it might help someone else too.

Thanks for reading and don’t forget to share your own opinions on the comments section.

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Starting from Zero

Over the last two years my passion for tech has increased massively, and so has my knowledge of it. I love it!

When I first set up my WordPress blog, I felt smart as hell. I mean, c’mon really, how many people out there still need help setting up their email? Setting up a WordPress might seem easy for us techies/marketers/lifestyle designers/….okay I’m kidding I’m not all that.

God… I feel like I’m bragging and you’re not going to keep reading this post.

Believe me, I’m just writing from the heart. I’ve been reading this awesome book about drawing and another one about writing and they’ve inspired me in many different ways. I think anyone who reads them would enjoy them. Check them out: ‘Bird by Bird’ and “How To Draw Better.”

One thing I wish I was better at is with webdesign and programming. I know that if you want to learn anything you need to put the effort and really enjoy it. I can tell the people that enjoy what they do. A good example are those ninja’s at Hostgator (aff. link) or maybe those guys at Rackspace hosting; I haven’t hosted any site with them, I just hear they’re awesome. Anytime I mess with the code on my site, I just hit the chat with my people at Hostgator and I’m good. But I want to change that.

Or maybe not all that, I just want to be good at something else. Not just selling. We all know how you and I both hate salespeople, nothing against salespeople that love what they sell though. You others, sorry; yea you know who you are, find a product you like and believe in.

So why the new crave for learning?

I’ve always like learning new stuff and doing new things. I’ve probably had too many jobs in my life; I don’t regret any of them. As much as I hated selling vacuums I don’t regret it. They’ve all taught me something. The reason for the new crave, I say, it’s just me. I love it. I like challenges, and it’s only human. Why do you think there are so many How-to posts out there?

People want to know everything. I just had a thought as we speak and I went and looked it up. Like what’s a Weblog client? I had no idea such thing existed. There you go, now I know a little bit more about WP than I did before.

So this whole new crave I’ve realized is not just for me but FOR YOU! I want to learn these things more so I can teach it to others better. I get a lot of questions in my email inbox about blogging, affiliate marketing and all that good ol’ online business stuff.

Most of the times I just send them to my peers and let them explain how to do-what it is they want to do.

What’s your learning crave, what do you want to learn? and Why? Share it in the comments. What do your readers want to know if you’re a blogger?

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What are you going to do today?

It’s the beginning of another new year, and it’s all stretched out in front of us. The question in my mind is what are you going to do today? Not tomorrow or next week or next month. It’s one of the things that really makes us lose focus on TODAY. If you’re thinking about what you did and didn’t do last year – forget about it, there’s nothing you can do today but learn from the mistakes and successes. Worrying about tomorrow isn’t going to help you accomplish anything, and thinking about it is going to be a waste of time.

If you want 2011 to be the best year you’ve ever had you’re going to have to remember the question above: what are you going to DO today? You noticed I capitalized DO; that’s right! Notice it doesn’t say think, feel, eat, or any other word. On one of my favorite blogs I read, I took some serious advice on his manifesto 18 months 2 blogs six figures that says

“Ruthlessly focus your efforts on things that work, and stop spending precious time on things that don’t.”

Any time not spent doing what your main focus is is going to be time wasted. The longer we loaf around, the longer it will take for us to have those results we want so bad. It’s not easy, I know, because as I write this post, I get that random text, I get the urge to go do something else, that lizard brain tells me “you can do it later, you don’t have to do it now,” someone calls to ask a favor, and countless other distractions. I understand how tough it can be and I’ve researched some solutions that might help you and me.

If you know what really matters, here’s a simple three step process to focusing on what matters and getting it done today:

  1. Make it extremely important – By this I mean put it on the top of your list of things to do; this task is something that you can’t go to bed before you finish. Sid Sivara says to “Clear important, but unnecessary items off your schedule for a day – and let them go. Every day that you spend on tasks that don’t matter is a day you can never recover – and that, to me, is an emergency.”
  2. One thing at a time – Some people seem to think that multi-tasking is a good thing, when in reality it isn’t. If you don’t eat and talk at the same time or read and drive also, why do something so dangerous as multi-task? My advice is to put all the effort and attention on one place at a time.
  3. Do it early – This one is the most crucial advice and I agree 100%. Make it a priority first thing in the morning to focus on the important tasks, and do the less important stuff later.

With all the distractions in the world, and on the web especially, it’s hard to keep focus on today. But if you’re determined and you have a deep desire and purpose to get somewhere with whatever it is you’re trying to do, you’ll figure out how to keep a sharp focus.

Once again I ask you what are you going to DO today?