Why do we do things that we know won’t get us anywhere?
To be honest with you guys lately I’ve been lazy. I haven’t posted in forever; that’s obvious if you check the date on my last post. But you know what, it okay to be lazy sometimes. Even though I’ve been slacking tremendously, I’ve been putting a lot of time to one of my niche sites and it’s finally hit the second page of Google for one of the keywords that I’m trying to rank for.
I wasn’t even planning to make this post today, but since I feel so bad about not doing it, I figured I would start at least a post about why I’ve been so lazy. Actually, as I’m writing this post I’m also researching about why we humans are this way. Why we all want something, but we don’t do it. It’s a question that has been bugging me for days now and I figured if it’s screwing with my head, it might be with yours, too.
Why don’t we do things, even though want to do them?
Why do we? I know that when I write a post hundreds of people (I hope) will read it and benefit from in some way. I know that my blog will get more traffic, which equals more readers and once again hopefully more subscribers. But why is it so hard to just do it?
On the search for answering this question I found I wasn’t the only person that asked the same question. The problem isn’t lack of information, you and I know if we want to learn affiliate marketing we could read a book on it or get a course. There’s enough information about any topic out there in books and the web. We know what to do, but we still don’t do it.
Most times we just go ahead and do the opposite or keep doing exactly what we were doing. We keep writing posts that don’t entertain, engage or educate readers. We keep eating food that’s not healthy for us, and we invest hours into other shit that doesn’t grow our blog.
“To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing.”–Mark Twain
Content is what matters in a blog, so why do I skip the most important element to a blog? What I found out can help me change that…
I criticize my work too much – I must be real with you guys, sometimes I delete or just leave full posts in queue and let them stay there for days. I finish writing a post and re-read it, then I start asking myself questions whether I think it’s a good post or not, and I second guess myself. I start thinking what people are going to think about the post. “This post sucks!”, “what a waste of my time”… These are all thoughts that cross my mind and fear kicks in of posting. It’s not good to be our own worst critics.
The instant gratification syndrome kicks in – I would rather write a short post in some article directory that I know is going to drive traffic to my niche sites and make me money than take half a day researching, writing, and editing a great post here for you. We all want what we want…NOW!!
What BJ Gallagher recommends we do – 5 Things we can do to change the habit
1. In my case it’s become a habit not to post very often, which is not what I want to do. I really wish I could post more often. By creating a habit of writing a paragraph to get my rolling or separating a time slot in the day dedicated to just writing can create a habit. Training myself with love can create a habit faster.
2. I’ve been using words in my vocabulary that don’t relate to action. By eliminating words like try, should, ought to can help me get rid of the negative vocab. Using more motivating words will create better results. Examples: “I’m going to write a post right now”, “people love reading my posts”
3. Sometimes I start thinking it needs to be a 1000 word Goliath post to add some value to you, but I’ve realized that a single link to an interesting article or tool can still be useful and simple to do. It’s starting that counts. By setting the goals much smaller I can guarantee myself success.
4. I know for a fact that not having a friend, coach, or mentor pushing me will not help me get at least a post a week. It’s a fact that if you have someone reminding you of your commitments, it helps. Don’t do it alone. Find someone willing to hold you accountable.
5. Finally, the last one, if not the most important. BJ Gallagher tells us that success is about progress, not perfection. Being a perfectionist myself, it’s hard to hear this, but it’s important that I know this so I can start moving in the right direction. From now on as I did with this post, I’ll write at least a sentence or a paragraph every day, and pat myself in the back and remind myself that I’m taking the right steps in the right direction. Remember that to get to the top of the building, you need to walk one step at a time, you don’t just jump to the tenth floor do you?
Obviously these are just a few reas0ns why our brains work in a certain way. Last I’m not the guy you want to get your advice about psychology from, I’m just restating things I’ve learned about why I do things according to psychology.
So now that you know I’ve been slacking, do you have any other advice or ideas to share about your own experience and how you have changed?
As I typically do at the end of each post, if you think this article helped you in some way, share it with others if you will, who knows it might help someone else too.
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